Creating a self-soothe box

What is a self-soothe box?

A self-soothe or sensory box is something that is easy to put together and use straight away. You can use things that can be found around your home, so you don’t need to buy any special resources or spend lots of money.

Why should I use a self-soothe box?

A self-soothe box is a simple and accessible tool that can be really useful for children. Most humans develop their own self-regulation techniques throughout their lives, trying different methods until they know what works well for them. Children aren’t born with the ability to self-control, instead they need to learn how to emotionally regulate as they grow up. A self-soothe box can help with this by including anything that is useful to distract and soothe them in times of stress. You can adapt these boxes to be age appropriate.

How would I create a self-soothe box?

To start with, you can use any box you have around the house (shoe boxes work well), then together with your child you can decorate it so that your child is involved and can have some ownership in it. To decide what goes in it, discuss with your child what they like to use and what makes them feel calm. A great way to go about this is to pick things that activate the five senses.

How and when should the box be used?

The box can be used at any time that your child is feeling anxious, angry, sad or worried to help alleviate that feeling. The idea is that it is easily accessible (if any times could present a risk to young children, ensure use is supervised). You can help your child engage with their box and immerse themselves in it to get the most out of it.

What to put in the self-soothe box

Things you can smell

  • Clothing that has a parent/carers perfume

  • handkerchiefs with a smell the child likes

  • Pre-scented tissues (you can buy cheaply from supermarkets)

  • Scented candles

Things you can hear

  • A recording of a familiar or comforting voice

  • Meditation recordings

  • Animal or nature sounds

  • A favourite story or nursery rhyme

  • Music that you enjoy

Things you can taste

  • Lollipops

  • Chewing gum

  • Favourite snacks

  • Specific taste sensations (popping candy / sour sweets)

Things you can touch

  • Cuddly toys

  • Stress ball

  • Soft materials

  • Hand cream

  • Play-doh

  • Fidget Toys

  • Rubber band to snap on wrist (helpful with self-harm urges)

Things you can see

  • Photos of special people or places

  • Pictures the child finds calming

  • Funny pictures

  • Mindful colouring books (there are free print outs online)

  • Positive quotes or affirmations